Cognitive-behavioral therapy books and websites:

  • Mind Over Mood, by Dennis Greenberger & Christine A. Padesky (it's worth it to go for the 2nd edition, which came out last year, because although the 1st edition was great, the 2nd edition has very useful and timely additions).
  • Thoughts and Feelings, by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, & Patrick Fanning (I have the 4th edition and don't know if that's the most recent).
  • The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Personality Disorders, by Jeffrey C. Wood (even though it’s billed as being for people with personality disorders, it’s got good general information that would be useful for anyone).
  • The Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns.
  • The moodgym program ( is like an interactive self-help book which helps you to learn and practice skills which can help to prevent and manage symptoms of depression and anxiety.
  • is a service for people seeking information about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy that incorporates mindfulness and interpersonal effectiveness.

Resources for learning about nonviolent communication (NVC):

  • Here's a wonderful 13 minute video that explains NVC, in particular vulnerable honesty:
  • The publisher of official NVC books and pamphlets is Puddle Dancer Press (, and there are also some additional resources at this website.
  • Judy Burrill is a local NVC teacher and consultant whom I highly recommend:
  • Connection Central ( is a free website with the latest articles from NVC trainers. It's a way to stay up-to-date on what trainers are thinking, how they're living NVC in their own lives, or how they're feeling about world events.
  • Camp Stomping Ground is an overnight camp in the Catskills Mountains outside Binghamton, NY "building radically empathic communities through humble curiosity, personal responsibility, restorative practices, and unbounded curiosity."
  • Bay NVC ( offers many free resources in its “Educational Materials,” including online audio, video, articles, and worksheets.
  • Brooklyn-based NVC consultant Dian Killian also has some good handouts and worksheets on her website:
  • The NVC Academy offers telecourses and webinars, many of which include recordings and printed materials:
  • Each summer there's a week-long intensive workshop in NVC called the New York NVC Intensive. I attended the intensive in 2007 and found it so inspiring and informative; I highly recommend it. Here's the link:
  • The Center for Nonviolent Communication ( offers both resources and a listing of live in-person workshops and classes in NVC.

Miscellaneous online resources:

Parenting and Children:

  • Here are six of the best parenting resources recommended by top developmental, clinical, and family psychologists:
  • Cornell Cooperative Extension has many family and parenting resources on their website (, and offers excellent parenting skills workshops periodically (
  • The Organization for Psychoeducational Tutoring (OPT) is a nonprofit organization founded here in Ithaca and directed by psychiatrist Dr. Joseph Strayhorn: OPT provides affordable, in-home tutoring by telephone to teach children psychological and academic skills that make life better, such as: temper control/handling frustration; focusing/getting things accomplished; being confident and brave; getting along with people/building friendships/being kind; get enjoyment out of things; making wise decisions; reading fluency; reading comprehension; and math.

Couples and Relationships:


  • is a free public service of distinguished psychologist Reid Wilson, Ph.D., who is director of the Anxiety Disorders Treatment Center in Chapel Hill, NC. The website includes free informative videos and other kinds of help. 
  • This website, published by the American Psychological Association, offers tools and strategies for helping to manage children's stress and anxiety, as well as tips on mindfulness:
  • This website is loaded with useful information about adult anxiety disorders and how to effectively treat them:
  • The Anti-Anxiety Workbook, by Martin M. Antony & Peter J. Norton
  • The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook, by Martin M. Antony & Richard P. Swinson
  • When Perfect Isn't Good Enough, by Martin M. Antony & Richard P. Swinson
  • Binghamton Anxiety Clinic ( offers comprehensive anxiety assessment and cognitive-behavioral therapy for both adults and children suffering from Social Phobia or Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, with sliding scale fees.

Depression and Bipolar Disorder:

  • Breaking Free from Depression: Pathways to Wellness, by Jesse H. Wright and Laura W. McCray
  • The Mood Repair Toolkit: Proven Strategies to Prevent the Blues from Turning Into Depression, by David A. Clark
  • I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, by Terrence Real
  • The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know (3rd Edition), by David J. Miklowitz
  • The Bipolar Workbook: Tools for Controlling Your Mood Swings (2nd Edition), by Monica Ramirez Basco
  • An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness, by Kay Redfield Jamison
  • Unglued: A Bipolar Love Story, by Jeffrey Zuckerman


  • End the Insomnia Struggle: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Get to Sleep and Stay Asleep, by Colleen Ehrnstrom & Alisha L. Brosse
  • The Insomnia Workbook: A Comprehensive Guide to Getting the Sleep You Need, by Stephanie Silberman
  • Say Goodnight to Insomnia: The Six-Week, Drug-Free Program Developed at Harvard Medical School, by Gregg D. Jacobs
  • You can find a huge amount of evidence-based sleep health information, news, and unbiased product reviews at I'm very impressed with this website.


  • The Anger Management Workbook, by W. Robert Nay
  • Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship, by W. Robert Nay

Trauma and PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder):

  • Trauma and Recovery, by Judith Herman, M.D.
  • It's Not You, It's What Happened to You: Complex Trauma and Treatment, by Christine A. Courtois, Ph.D
  • Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and about Adults Abused as Children, by Eliana Gil, Ph.D.
  • Outgrowing the PainTogether: A Book for Spouses and Partners of Adults Abused as Children, by Eliana Gil, Ph.D.
  • Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse, by Mike Lew
  • Mike Lew leads recovery workshops for men survivors of sexual child abuse, and also workshops for couples in which one partner is a male survivor of sexual child abuse:
  • I Can't Get Over it: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors (Second Edition), by Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D.
  • Loving Someone with PTSD: A Practical Guide to Understanding and Connecting with Your Partner after Trauma, by Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D.
  • Your Turn for Care: Surviving the Aging and Death of the Adults Who Harmed You, by Laura S. Brown, Ph.D.
  • The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole, by Arielle Schwartz, Ph.D.
  • Finding Life Beyond Trauma: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Heal from Post-Traumatic Stress and Trauma-Related Problems, by Victoria M. Follette and Jacqueline Pistorello
  • Resources for people who are trying to recover from the trauma of causing injury or death to another:

Addictive/Habitual Behaviors (e.g., compulsive gambling, compulsive eating, substance abuse), and Motivation to Change:

  • Controlling Your Drinking: Tools to Make Moderation Work for You (2nd Edition), by William R. Miller and Ricardo F. Munoz
  • Sex, Drugs, Gambling, and Chocolate: A Workbook for Overcoming Addictions (Second Edition), by A. Thomas Horvath Ph.D., FAClinP, G. Alan Marlatt PhD, Reid K. Hester PhD (Published 2003 by New Harbinger Publications)
  • The Addiction Recovery Skills Workbook: Changing Addictive Behaviors Using CBT, Mindfulness, and Motivational Interviewing Techniques, by Suzette Glasner-Edwards PhD (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbooks)
  • SMART Recovery is an abstinence-based, not-for-profit organization with a sensible, science-based self-help program for people having problems with drinking and using. Its mission is to empower people to achieve independence from addiction problems. SMART Recovery sponsors face-to-face meetings around the world, daily online meetings, online message board, and 24/7 chat room.
  • The website helps people to stay motivated in their recovery with a mobile app.
  • Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, by John C. Norcross (Simon & Schuster).
  • Finding Your Way to Change: How the Power of Motivational Interviewing Can Reveal What You Want and Help You Get There, by Allan Zuckoff with Bonnie Gorscak (published May 14, 2015 by Guilford Press)

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD):

  • Understand Your Brain, Get More Done: The ADHD Executive Functions Workbook, by Ari Tuckman
  • The Work Smart Academic Planner (Revised Edition): Write It Down, Get It Done, by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare
  • Train Your Brain for Success: A Teenager's Guide to Executive Functions, by Randy Kulman
  • Parent-Teen Therapy for Executive Function Deficits and ADHD: Building Skills and Motivation, by Margaret H. Sibley
  • Scattered, by Gabor Mate, M.D.

Websites with Transgender Resources:

Books about Transgender Issues:

  • Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community, by Laura Erickson-Schroth
  • Transition and Beyond, Observations on Gender Identity, by Reid Vanderburgh
  • The Transgender Guidebook: Keys to a Successful Transition, by Anne L Boedecker PhD
  • The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity, by Rylan Jay Testa PhD (Author), Deborah Coolhart PhD LMFT (Author), & 3 more
  • The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People: Your Transition as Your Partner Transitions, by D. M. Maynard.
  • My Trans Parent: A User Guide for When Your Parent Transitions, by Heather Bryant. When a parent transitions, the whole family transitions. Providing tips and advice, information on gender identity and transitioning, and a wealth of real-life stories, this book will guide you through your realative's transition, and your own.
  • Thriving Through Transition: Self-Care for Parents of Transgender Children, by Denise O'Doherty.
  • Transgender Journeys, by Virginia Ramey Mollenkott and Vanessa Sheridan (for Christian transgender people to accept themself)
  • What Does God Think? Transgender People and the Bible, by Cheryl B. Evans (for Christian family members of transgender people)
  • TRANS/gressive: How Transgender Activists Took on Gay Rights, Feminism, the Media & Congress... And Won!, by Riki Wilchins (published Jun 2, 2017 by Riverdale Avenue Books)
  • A Letter to My Trans Sisters, edited by Charlie Craggs, is a collection of myriad transitions and reflections thereof by women around the world. Beyond validating that there is no one way to transition, this book reminds readers that each trans woman transitions from and into much broader contexts than just their own immediate lives.
  • "You're In the Wrong Bathroom!": And 20 Other Myths and Misconceptions About Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming People, by Laura Erickson-Schroth and Laura A. Jacobs.
  • Trans Forming Families: Real Stories about Transgendered Loved Ones, 2nd Edition, by Mary Boenke (editor), features first-person accounts by parents, families, and friends of transgender people who have come to accept and embrace their transgender loved ones. 
  • Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle, and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children, edited by Rachel Pepper.